I see it over and over again.
Men wanting to live an authentic life. Waiting. And waiting.
Wanting the life they hear about, read about; life to the full … but it eludes them. Life seems more about managing and maintaining.
Jesus came to “heal the broken hearted,” he said. Restore and liberate. So let him.
The Heavenly life is available. Now.
The difficulty is that we don’t appreciate the fact that it takes a process.
A potentially long process.
Oswald Chambers says, “The curse with most of us is that we won’t.” It just feels too overwhelming. And where would we start anyway?
We’ve spent a lifetime getting to this place … it’s just going to take a while getting out of this place. One prayer doesn’t fix it. Neither does a bunch of religious activity.
Jesus invites us on a journey; a lifelong journey. One that takes us within our own soul, to the core of our life, our desires, our authenticity; our hearts.
His central mission as publicly stated in Luke 4:18 was to “… heal the brokenhearted, preach deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, (and) to set at liberty them that are bruised.” And He offers this to us.
He calls us to a journey into our own souls where we must enter the cavern of our lives with all it’s dark and scary places … all it’s wounds, fears, demons, and monsters … and asks us to open the lock we guard so tightly around our heart so He can come in and restore it. We must do it. He knocks at the door, but we must open it.
Imagine yourself as Indiana Jones – on a quest to the bowels of your own soul … “for behold,” Jesus said, “the kingdom of God is within you.” Journey there with Him – for you hold the keys. Take Him there and let Him in. Let Him do His work. Surrender. Surrender to His healing, delivering, sight restoring, liberating work. Go get your freedom. Loose the Kingdom inside. From there you can begin to live; live the authentic life. Healed, delivered, restored, and free.
Greg Tutwiler, www.ChristianCoachingForMen.com
The Masculine Journey Trail Guide
Release date; tentative late Fall 2014
Shoulda, coulda, woulda … I hate that saying. There’s nothing positive about it, at all. I think it should be listed as the definition of the word regret. What rings in your mind when you rattle those words?
Okay, so here’s the good part. It doesn’t have to end that way. Not yet. Don’t let shoulda, coulda, woulda become your epitaph. Seriously. Make a list right now. What are the things you’re thinking you should have done, could have done, or would have done? Perhaps it is too late for a few of them, but not all. As long as there’s breath, there’s hope. If you should have said you’re sorry, maybe you still can. If you could have taken your child to that movie, maybe you still can. If you would have … (fill in the blank).
Shoulda, coulda, woulda is past tense living. What can you do differently today? Choose the now, not yesterday. And realize that tomorrow hasn’t happened yet. Make it your goal to arrive at your final days with those three cruddy words nowhere in site.
As men, our default mode when we get backed into a corner is to figure our own way out, right? Don’t we like to say, “I got this.” And sure, there’s a part of masculinity that affords us that confidence. But how often do we find ourselves not really knowing what to do about a situation? Usually it’s something delicate like a difficult conversation with our children, or our spouse – or navigating a job loss, or the implosion of our safety or comfort zones. But we dive in anyway, because we’re fixers, and often muck things up. Then we’re really in a pickle.
Yet, Jesus makes this statement; “… you of little faith? … seek first His kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” (Matthew 6:30)
Our first line of defense should be to seek counsel from the Holy Spirit; first. Not as an afterthought, but the first thing.
It adjusts our attitude towards the situation.
It sets the tone for the journey out of the situation.
And it calls Heaven into action on our behalf.
Plus, it will save you a lot of heart ache to do it God’s way, first.
Greg Tutwiler, CCLC/BCPC Christian Coaching For Men